To end up alone
in a tomb of a room
just a lightbulb
and a potbelly,
and glad to have
…in the morning
they’re out there
and you turn over
to your left side
to get the sun
on your back
of your eyes.
tune-shehums said: I recently saw your post on the sugar skull makeup tutorial Promise did. I never really saw the makeup as offensive, but obviously I can't really say anything on it cause I'm not latinx. Now my question. I've been wanting a sugar skull tattoo for a while now. I've always loved the detail and bold colors. Is it offensive to get that tattoo since I'm not latinx?
Disclaimer: I’m Dominican and Brazilian and have no affiliation to Mexico.
Also that post was a submission that a Mexican person submitted to voice their feelings on an issue that was important to them, which is actually quite common. If a post isn’t signed by a mod it’s usually a submission so yeah with that said…
DDLM is about paying respects to passed loved ones so the sugar skulls have become associated with the day and the reason may people feel offended by non Mexicans wearing sugar skull make up (and tats) is because obviously death is a very touch subject and it’s kindof disrespectful when you see something that’s part of your culture being used as a fun dress up thing.
Do any Mexicans want to chime in?
If you’re not Mexican please stay the fuck away from Mexican culture.
I don’t care how beautiful you think it is. How much you’ve researched or if you’re 25k in debt from studying Mexican culture at college. Or if you had a spiritual experience after every single cousin I have jizzed on your face.
It’s not yours. DDLM is sacred. It survived (for the most part) imperialism for Christ’s sake. It’s meant to honor OUR dead OUR loved ones. Not to decorate your God damn anything. Do you have any idea what my people had to endure to keep this alive? To keep in going? What Mexican parents to american kids have to go through to have their kids not feel shame about their bodies and our culture and to see it as something to be respected?
All the work they’ve done and do and you just want to roll up and be a part of it? You don’t have respect. You, the asker, can’t even correctly classify this holiday as Mexican you say Latinx. Do you even know the history of these skulls you find so beautiful?
Unless unless you’ve been invited to participate in an event by a Mexican or are buying Mexican goods from Mexicans or appreciating the culture from a far (listening to music, watching a Mexican film, going to a Mexican art show, learning about it etc) stay away.
Learn about your own people. See beauty in your culture.
Stay away from mine.
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